Nuance. Everything has an element of nuance. Nothing is ever 100% either way and absolute. And I acknowledge the irony in me using an absolute word like “nothing”. Remove ego. Dismiss ad hominem common logical fallacies (and other common logical fallacies) and the slings and arrows hurt a lot less. See the person you are engaging with. REALLY see them…and love them. Make the main thing the main thing and do not stray. “Whataboutism” is for people that are scared and dwell in the place of fear for far too long. Thank you for your post friend. Very timely and straight as a nail.
Very Wisdomy and Charming. It feels like I have just read an essay Pooh wrote for Grad School in his own unique adaptation to the style. Helpful and Not Helpful are truly the measures we need and as you illustrate, easier to determine than Good and Bad.
Thanks for writing this Addam, I think there are a lot of very angry frustrated people on here (I have run into more than my share lately) who can benefit from this and it will make life much easier for the rest of us. I’m also loving the capitalizations - it’s very Adventure Story -ish!
Nuance. Everything has an element of nuance. Nothing is ever 100% either way and absolute. And I acknowledge the irony in me using an absolute word like “nothing”. Remove ego. Dismiss ad hominem common logical fallacies (and other common logical fallacies) and the slings and arrows hurt a lot less. See the person you are engaging with. REALLY see them…and love them. Make the main thing the main thing and do not stray. “Whataboutism” is for people that are scared and dwell in the place of fear for far too long. Thank you for your post friend. Very timely and straight as a nail.
What a timely post, as I was just about to go into battle! Now I have to take this damned armor off.
Very Wisdomy and Charming. It feels like I have just read an essay Pooh wrote for Grad School in his own unique adaptation to the style. Helpful and Not Helpful are truly the measures we need and as you illustrate, easier to determine than Good and Bad.
I love the image of Pooh in grad school! Thank you for the kind words.
I have lost my temper, I think, twice in my life. Both times when being unjustly accused of something I did not do but the person did not believe me.
But we are all human, and it pays to listen, for none of us is as perfect as we think we are.
very insightful article. Yes, I agree that if people are unreasonable it is just better to stop talking to them than to "teach them a lesson".
Thanks for writing this Addam, I think there are a lot of very angry frustrated people on here (I have run into more than my share lately) who can benefit from this and it will make life much easier for the rest of us. I’m also loving the capitalizations - it’s very Adventure Story -ish!
Sure… I think we can all afford to work a bit harder at this.